{"id":6189,"date":"2018-02-18T10:54:23","date_gmt":"2018-02-18T10:54:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thecoachingcentre.com.au\/the-shop\/?p=6189"},"modified":"2018-02-18T10:54:23","modified_gmt":"2018-02-18T10:54:23","slug":"name-calling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thecoachingcentre.com.au\/the-shop\/name-calling\/","title":{"rendered":"Name Calling Shuts Down Healthy Thinking"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1>Primitive Thinking that Shuts Thinking Down<\/h1>\n<p>All politicians all do it. At least, I can&#8217;t think of a single politician who doesn&#8217;t do it. Yet in name-calling, they are actually practicing a very primitive form of thinking. Rather it is one that is appropriate for a seven-year old or maybe a 13-year old, but not for an adult. Actually, it is a form of pseudo-thinking that shuts down healthy thinking.<br \/>\nNow there&#8217;s a particular kind of name-calling that Donald Trump does. I never liked it, yet it was often funny, and sometimes incredibly entertaining. And what would you expect from a successful TV entertainer and producer (The Apprentice) or from a successful business man who knows how to establish a brand (the Trump Brand)? Mostly during the campaign, he gave names to his opponents, names that typically stuck: lying Ted, crooked Hillary, Pocahontas, etc. This simple kind of name-calling strikes me as what young children do, sometimes for play, sometimes to torment other children. And it also stops thinking. Hence once you label someone in that way, the conversation is over.<\/p>\n<h2>Name Calling With Judgment- A Fact Or Only Fiction<\/h2>\n<p>A more insidious form of name-calling is making a judgment about someone and then presenting that judgment as if it was a fact. As a result this is what many of the Democrats do in response to Trump. They make a judgment that he is unfit to be president or is mentally deranged or something else and then they use those terms to describe him.  While it is also name-calling, it is more hidden. Once they describe him with their judgment terms they do not own that it is their judgment. They try to sneak it in as a fact.<\/p>\n<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/thecoachingcentre.com.au\/the-shop\/accepting-and-appreciating-emotions-as-emotions\/\">D<\/a>escriptive and Evaluative Information<\/h2>\n<p>Much as this form of name-calling confuses two levels of information- descriptive and evaluative. Yet when a person cannot make this distinction, that person can never be a <strong>professional communicator<\/strong>. Also you can find that statement over and over in the early NLP literature and it was made to introduce the importance of sorting out what is sensory-based (see, hear, feel, etc.) as a description. A description that is empirical versus those that are evaluative based. The first set of descriptions use the <em>sensory predicates<\/em>.<br \/>\nThe second set use the Meta-Model distinctions that are <em>ill-formed<\/em>&#8211; unspecified nouns and verbs, nominalizations, lost performatives, universal quantifiers, etc.<\/p>\n<h2>Descriptive Language Predicates<\/h2>\n<p>Descriptive language can be immediately tested because it is empirical and available to your eyes and ears. Evaluative language cannot be seen or heard. And it is an evaluation by someone using some values, criteria, and standards. So when you use evaluative language, you are engaged in a high-level and subtle form of name-calling. &#8220;You are rude.&#8221;  &#8220;She is very gracious.&#8221; &#8220;He is hateful.&#8221; &#8220;She is a racist.&#8221; &#8220;They are blind to their prejudices.&#8221;<br \/>\nAnd all of that is just name-calling. Hence it is using and imposing evaluative judgments on someone. All that it accomplishes is to prejudice people against someone that the person doesn&#8217;t like. To the question as to why someone thinks, say, or does what they do, this is the answer. Consequently it gives people an answer and thereby enables them to stop thinking. It fallaciously &#8220;explains&#8221; the person&#8217;s actions that they dislike. <em>So this kind of name-calling offers a false answer that shuts down further inquiry.<\/em><\/p>\n<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/thecoachingcentre.com.au\/the-shop\/behind-stops-powerful-assumptions\/\">N<\/a>ame-calling confuses map with territory<a href=\"https:\/\/thecoachingcentre.com.au\/the-shop\/contact\/\">.<\/a><\/h2>\n<p>The word (as a map) is then assumed to be the real thing (the territory). It is as if the word is the reality. In addition,  the strange thing about this is that if the person reacts to this name-calling by vehemently reacting- that very reaction then encourages more name-calling. Whilst the reactiveness fuels the person doing the name-calling because it works in that if it galls the person, upsets him, and &#8220;gets&#8221; him.<br \/>\nSo it is stereotypical thinking that feeds name-calling. We make a judgment about someone based on a stereotype about some classification assuming that &#8220;everybody in the class is essentially the same.&#8221; Furthermore, that stops any fresh thinking that considers the person based on his or her uniqueness. Malcolm Gladwell spoke of this in his book, Blink (2005) by quoting psychologist Keith Payne:<br \/>\n&#8220;When we make a split-second decision, we are really vulnerable to being guided by our stereotypes and prejudices, even ones we may not necessarily endorse or believe. (P. 223)<\/p>\n<h2>Reframing Effects<\/h2>\n<p>Therefore this map-territory confusion can seem &#8220;<em>magical<\/em>.&#8221; Because we don&#8217;t question the name calling, we take it as real. It is a <em>negative form of reframing<\/em>.<br \/>\nWhile reframing puts a positive spin and meaning on what we would normally find challenging, name-calling puts a negative spin and meaning on what we might otherwise value. 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